How to Tell If Your Advisor is Right for You
One of the most common questions we get at Flerish HQ is: How do I know I'm picking the right Advisor?
We're here to answer that question and assuage any doubts you might have. Read on and find out how to choose the right Advisor for you.
They Have the Skillset
“Everyone in the entrepreneurial community agrees that assembling a talented team is as important as it gets.” - The Start-Up of You
We love The Start-Up of You, there’s a quote for basically anything!
Don't worry, you don't need to have a concrete direction or purpose for yourself in mind, yet. One of the reasons we have you pick Advisors is so that your Advisor can help you formulate your next steps and figure out where you want to go from there. You should, however, have a basic understanding of what you’re working for, if not toward—and the obvious answer is money, but as the song goes, mo money, mo problems…. It's great to want to select an Advisor because you like them (see point #2) but your Advisor should bring something more to the table than their winning personality. You can work backward in this equation—if you do just like one of the people you're considering asking to be an Advisor, make a list of reasons why you like them—if any of those traits are areas that you’re looking to improve upon with yourself, great! Go ahead and ask that person to be your Advisor. If not? Well, you’re probably better off asking someone else.
You Have to Match
“Build a network of alliances to help you…” - The Start-Up of You
Look, you're going to be working pretty closely with your Advisor to achieve some deep, personal success. So, when deciding on an Advisor, you need to consider who your Advisor is as a person, in addition to the skill set they bring to the table. They may have all the right experience to help you on your path, but if there isn’t a personality match to go along with that, you may be better served asking someone else to be an Advisor.
You want to walk away from your Meetings with your Advisor energized and ready to take on the world—something less than that could be an indication that your Advisor is not right for you. Sure, your Advisor may have you face some hard truths and help you realize areas where improvement is needed, but you should always walk away feeling like they have your best interests at heart, and that feedback is given constructively and healthily.
Remember, this is someone who’s going to be in your corner every step of the way, if you don’t have 100% faith and trust in their ability to help you (you know, be an ally…), then they are not a fit regardless of their professional pedigree, and you should consider someone else.
They Have the Time
“One lunch is worth dozens of emails.” – The Start-Up of You
Time is a finite resource, and look, we know everyone's busy. You're busy, your Advisor is certainly busy! That said, it's essential to have an Advisor who is willing and able to make time for you on their schedule. If you're finding your Advisor can't give you the time you need to pursue your goals, or that you keep getting rescheduled last minute for Meetings, so your progress is getting delayed, you may want to consider a different Advisor. Sometimes it truly is a timing issue, and your Advisor may tick all of the boxes, and inspire you—but an absent Advisor isn't an Advisor at all. Your development is important—and you deserve to have a team of Advisors who can give you the time and attention you need to get you where you want to go.
They’re in Your Corner, Always
“People change. You change. Some relationships just aren’t meant to last beyond a certain point.” - The Start-Up of You
The advice above applies to all teams of Advisors no matter what stage of development you're in with them—either early days or well entrenched, you deserve to have people in your corner you trust, who can give you the time you need. Sure, it would be great to learn everything about your Advisor before you invite them to become your Advisor. Unfortunately, life isn’t always so neat and orderly like that, and occasionally who was once a great Advisor becomes absent or unable to give you the time you need to keep momentum on yourself. When that becomes the case, it’s best to sever your relationship, and find an Advisor who can meet your needs. Like the quote above states, relationships change, and some just aren’t meant to last forever. That’s ok!
We know you are capable of achieving your goals, and that you deserve the very best team of Advisors possible. We hope that we provided some guidance as to who is right (and not right) for you! What qualities have some of your great Advisors had? Personally, we model our own Advisors exclusively on characteristics we believe Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson to possess…